Thursday, April 25, 2013

The Not Wedding

The Event

Complete with dinner and drinks, an emotional ceremony and a dance-party reception, The NotWedding has become a killer alternative to a bridal show. The hand-selected vendors perform their services as they would at a real wedding, and the “wedding guests” get to hear the music, taste the cakes, and smell the flowers… while enjoying a night of great food, dancing and surprises, leaving brides-to-be saying “I want my wedding to be just like that!”.

For brides and grooms, the event serves as a source of inspiration, a resource in finding trusted wedding vendors and an emotional reminder to plan for what comes after the wedding: a marriage! For participating wedding vendors, the event exposes their business to new referral sources, while also exposing each vendor to a wealth of inspiration, resources and confidence to take their business
to the next level.

Events By Ashley is directing the first Wichita Not Wedding and we could not be more excited! Abode Venue will host our event and we are honored to have an amazing group of vendors guests will have the opportunity to see at work! So, Save the Date!
Abode Venue
1330 E. Douglas
Wichita, KS 67214
October 15th, 2013
Ceremony at 6:00p.m.

If you are a vendor, apply here:
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Wednesday, April 3, 2013

The Truth About those Wedding Myths
Written By:
Events By Ashley Intern Danielle Holladay
"We may not be able to control the weather, but we can control our Plan B."
Myth #1: Brides can drop 4 sizes before the wedding day.

 Most brides think it is possible to lose those extra 5lbs, 10lbs and even 20lbs before the day of their wedding. In reality, losing weight in a short amount of time is an unrealistic concept for most. Your wedding day is not about what size your wedding dress is, and going to extensive lengths is only causing harm and added stress for yourself. Going down a dress size before the wedding may be a more attainable goal, but whatever size you are, all brides are entitled to feel beautiful on their wedding day.

 Myth #2: The bride and groom seeing each other before the ceremony is bad luck.

The idea of the bride and groom not seeing each other before the ceremony on the day of the wedding is another old tradition that you see not as commonly applied today. The gesture originated to build up the excitement of romanticism of the groom and bride seeing one another for the first time when she walks down the isle. Most couples today are not as traditional or capable of pulling this concept off on the day of their wedding. In some cases, some wedding pictures are arranged prior to the ceremony and the idea of seeing each other for the first time at the ceremony is not attainable. If this is the case, don’t think bad luck will follow you in your marriage. If you would like to follow through with this tradition though, be sure to inform your wedding planner so you can schedule pictures accordingly throughout the day.

Myth #3: The bride must wear white.
As most traditions go, brides are accustomed to wearing white on their wedding day. It has been known to represent the symbol of purity in a woman on the day of her wedding. But, the significance and meaning in this tradition has long come and gone as we are now in the year 2013. It has become a new modern tradition for brides to wear an assortment of colored wedding dresses today. Celebrity brides such as Jessica Biel and Reese Witherspoon have both opted for colored wedding dresses, as many others have included colored sashes and colorful accents on their dresses as well. Wearing white on your wedding day may be an old custom, but I believe we will be seeing a lot more of the colored wedding dress trend in 2013.

 Myth #4: It is going to rain on the day of the wedding.

As much as we would like to be able to control the weather, we all know that we have as much power over that as we do over the never ending raising gas prices. If your wedding is planned for an outdoor ceremony and the weather is not cooperating in your best interests, know that your wedding planner always has a back up plan. We may not be able to control the weather, but we can control our Plan B. It is always important to be aware ahead of time what changes are to be made incase of a weather misfortune, that way you are less likely to be stressed on the day of the wedding. Have faith in your wedding planner and their ability to make sure that a little rain won’t ruin your special day.

 Myth #5: Something old, something borrowed, something new and something blue.

The concept of brides having something old, something borrowed, something new and something blue originated from an old English rhyme. Today, most brides don’t know the true meaning of this custom, but it can be fun to incorporate the idea of these things into your wedding day. Even though most brides don’t always wear all of these articles, you can find ways to include them into centerpieces, flower arrangements and other fun ideas. Discuss with your friends and family, as well as your wedding planner fun ways to incorporate a little bit of old and new into your wedding day.

 Myth #6: You should begin planning your wedding a year in advance.

Planning a wedding can be a long process, but most couples think the planning needs to begin immediately following the engagement. Enjoy your time as an engaged couple. Allow yourselves the time to embrace this chapter of your relationship before stressing over wedding details. Typically most weddings are planned in the time frame of 6-18 months, so find a time frame that best suits the needs of your wedding arrangements and go forth with the planning from there.

 Myth #7: Destination weddings are less expensive.
Even though the idea of running away to elope on a beautiful island may sound more ideal for you and your wallet, the truth is most destination weddings can cost just as much, if not more than having an average size ceremony. The costs of traveling, food, lodging, the ceremony and photographer at a destination location typically don’t come for a cheap rate. Most destination wedding locations provide the ceremonial arrangements as package deals that come with a hefty price tag. Even though feeding hundreds of friends and family may sound more expensive, with a planner who knows the best deals and affordable ways to give you the wedding of your dreams, your costs of having a local ceremony are equivalent, and often cheaper than planning a destination wedding.

 Myth #8: Black can not be worn on your wedding.
The idea of wearing black has been associated with gloominess and has not been known for being an appropriate color choice for weddings. Black is one of the most frequent colors used in wedding color schemes, as well as is incorporated in many aspects of the wedding. It is not uncommon to find bridesmaids wearing little black dresses, as well as brides who add black in detailed accents on her own dress. So don’t exclude the color black when planning your wedding, black is back!
 Myth #9: The bride and groom must provide wedding favors for all the guests.
The gesture of providing wedding favors for your guests is a nice one at that, but it is not something that is required of the bride and groom. Don’t feel obligated to cut your budget in certain parts of the wedding in order to afford favors for each of your guests. Most guests are happy to get to spend this joyous day of your life with you, as well as already have been provided with good food and entertainment for the day. If you still feel compelled to have wedding favors, there are a ton of affordable fun DIY crafts that can make great wedding favors for your guests. Just be sure to not place wedding favors at the top of your priority list, because most of you friends and family are grateful enough to spend your wedding day with you and are not worried about what gift bag they will be picking up when they leave.

Myth #10: Everything will run perfectly on the day of the wedding.
As much as we would love for everything to go perfectly on the day of our wedding, it is only in an ideal world that we could have the fortune of nothing going wrong. It is easier to plan out all the possibilities of what could go wrong on the day of the wedding beforehand, and coming up with solutions to resolve the problem if it happens. Knowing what could go wrong on the day of your wedding makes things less stressful if they are to occur, as well as you are bound to be less stressed come the day of the wedding. Even if the ceremony is running late, or you don’t have enough napkins, everything will be perfect on your wedding day because it is a special day where you will be marrying your best friend. All of the little misfortunes are bound to occur, but when you remember the real meaning behind your wedding day, nothing could possibly go wrong.